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"Love is the revelation of the other person's freedom"
X wants me to be there, beside him, while leaving him free a little: flexible, going away occasionally, but not far: on the one hand, I must be present as a prohibition (without which there would not be the right desire), but also I must go away the moment when, this desire having formed. I might be in its way: I must be the Mother who loves enough (protective and generous), around whom the child plays, while she peacefully knits or sews. This would be the structure of the "successful" couple: a little prohibition, a good deal of play; to designate desire and then to leave it alone, like those obliging natives who show you path but don't insist on accompanying you on your way
There are two kinds of people who don't complain :
A. The party doesn't complain because he thinks the flaw is not serious enough to be complained, he is unable to list down all the dissatisfaction not because everything is perfect but he accepts the imperfection.
B. The party who doesn't complain because he does not want to break the harmony so he store it deep inside hoping one day the situation will change and things will get better and when that one day comes, nothing changes and he erupts.
Yesterday we were both reading, lying on his lap... I asked ; do you know why we use "reflect" as a word to ponder on our virtue and faults. He said; reflect means to cast back on surface, I guess it means we look at ourselves, our faults. I replied; Looking at the mirror today, I realised that; with eyes I can see everything, I can see your face, everyone faces... but I am unable to see my own. I can only see my own face through reflection. mirror, glasses, water surface. that's so weird. and I guess, if we stop reflecting, we will only able to see other people's faults and imperfection and forget ours" He said; "well, that's the same ideas"
"Love is the revelation of the other person's freedom"
